With the right Mindset you can conquer anything!
I have been through a lot as you all know at this point, but I would have never gotten through it if I didn't have the right mindset!
When I lost my mother in law instead of feeling completely lost and full of despair, I knew what I had to do...I had to face grief. I don't know anyone on earth who can face grief and not go through all the stages. The only good thing is that I knew what I was going to face, knowing what you're up against helps. When I got sick I knew that the only way to get better was to put in the work and it was HARD. Even though all I wanted to do was sleep I knew I had to suck it up and put in the work. Trust me this is a HUGE thing for me because any other time I would have slept all day and hoped for the best or relied on someone to take care of me. I did have my husband taking care of me for sure but it also turns out I have a lot of fight in me. I have gotten through all this because I have been changing and growing and its all about my mindset...I couldn't be more proud of myself.
When I would deal with back pain I wasn't always so strong, there would be times that I would just lay in bed and struggle with emotions and feel bad for myself. When I lost my Tutu (Grandma in Hawaiian) I myself was lost, I was a complete destructive mess. I was 17 years old when I lost my Tutu and it was the hardest thing that ever happened to me and I did not handle it the right way at all. When I would get sick I would just sleep for days and days not doing anything to get better. I didn't have the right Mindset to push myself or try to better myself. Being a teenager vs. who I am now is a HUGE difference.
After I went through my teens I wanted to be a better person but never really knew how. Even in my early 20's I was still learning how to do better and be better, it wasn't until my late 20's that I figured out that I had to put in the work! Now I am looking at every situation I am faced with through a different lens. Now I make it a point to work on my mind set and do better, think better and be better. I have gone through the same situations as mention in the "Before" part but with a better mindset. This time around, when I hurt my back I would tell myself "I know this hurts and I know it's EASY to have a pity party but that's not who I am or how I want to be". I got up and I put in the work! When I lost my mother in law I didn't sulk in pity, I grieved...I did the steps and I faced grief! Not only did I face grief but I did it willingly because I knew there was no way around it and you know what, I am proud of myself. Same thing with when I got sick, instead of waiting around and hoping for the best I knew I had to put in the work. I had to drink gatorade, water, take cool showers and take my medicine and go through the motions and I did it around the clock! That is a lot of work to put in when you are sick and feel like laying down. I did it though because I knew it was the only way to get better! See, now I have a mindset of take things head on and doing the work! it's NOT easy and that's what everyone wants, for things to be easy... and that's natural! but putting in the work sure in the heck was worth it!
Putting in the Work
Okay so I have been talking a lot about how I have been putting in the work, but what does that really mean? To me when it comes to mindset and putting in the work it means unlearning your natural instincts and rewiring your thoughts and actions. I didn't just one day wake up and say okay today is the day I decide I have a new mindset and then **POOF** done. If you have followed my work then you know I talk a lot about A.N.T.s (Automatic Negative Thoughts) and they are a Bxx to conquer! Sorry but it kinda needed to be said. Putting in the work means being intentional with your thoughts! Making it a point to go against your initial thoughts and trying to counteract it with a positive thought. When putting in the work it means creating new habits, as in putting your mindset into physical action! Creating new habits is not easy you have to be persistent and consistent! Then after that there is even more work! Now you have to make it a lifestyle because checking off a short term goal or doing a habit tracker is great but it isn't being used in full effect if you aren't going to live by your new way of thinking and making it a lifestyle.
I would love to know of a time where
you decided that you wanted to work on your mindset and what kind of work you put behind it. If you are in the processes of making a change or wanting to make a change I would love to talk about it and see what your goals are! There is no set way to change a person's mindset, everyone's Journey is different and everyone works differently but with hard work and dedication anyone can do it!
If you would like to get to work on a new direction, and working hard on your mindset then please reach out! I am interested in your Journey and would love to help! Make sure to check out my services and remember as always.....
Have A Day As Beautiful As You Are!
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