How to be a Strong leader during stressful times......
Being an Effective Leader:
The first part of being an effective leader is self-care. A Leader can be anyone & anywhere, it can be at work, a person who runs the household, or Whoever is in charge of a group of people. Before you can take care of others, you have to take care of your needs first. You can't be tired, worn out and stressed... and then think you are going to be able to effectively Lead others. The best way to help yourself, is to take the Holistic approach. The holistic approach means taking care of your mind body and soul. If you cannot do this before helping others due to emergency situations and being thrown into the situation, that is understandable...just make sure you take care of you ASAP!
Self-Care & Leadership:
The first thing in Self-Care is being mindful of your needs. If this means taking a break, sitting in a quiet place or doing some meditation to figure it out, then take a moment to do that. Figure out what you need, and then ask for it. Everyone needs someone to turn to and the important thing after identifying your need is expressing them to the person you turn to in times of need. Take care of your needs once you have identified them so that we can get to being the awesome leaders I know you all can be!
Momma/Wife Leadership Role from my Perspective:
Being a mom (and/or dad really) you have one of the hardest leadership roles there is. Being a parent there is no break, that is a 24/7 Role and to conquer that kind of Role it's Crucial to take care of you. What in the world can you do to feel rejuvenated enough to get through the day? Take 3 breaks during the day and do 3 things for yourself NO INTERUPTIONS!
Remember this is about focusing on yourself, so eliminate distractions as best as you can. One thing I do is I give the kids a snack, a juice and a good show (don't give them an option on what show because that will be a 30 min long debate on what to watch).
First Break: Morning break, yup you heard me, take a break before the day even gets started. Wake up before the family and take care of you.
1. Eat a good breakfast and listen to music you like, or read a good article or blog, do something that you can do in the same amount of time it takes for you to eat your breakfast.
2. Meditate & Morning Affirmations, set a timer and think of something that relaxes you, think of what your ideal day would look like and see if you can create that idealistic day. Do some affirmations so you can conquer the day with a positive attitude!
3. Wash your face and get dressed (preferably not in Sweats or Yoga pants, just because your at home with the kids doesn't mean you don't need to dress for a successful day).
Second Break: Lunch time! Feed the family lunch and as soon as you are done making sure they have what they need, excuse yourself. This is time for you and it doesn't have to be long.
1. Eat your lunch in a laid back space just for you.
2. Watch a show that takes the same amount of time as a lunch break
3. Do some deep breathing and Mental Mindset, Reset and get back to it momma!
Third Break: Bed time, do your bed time routine for your family but then create a separate one for you and this may mean putting everyone else to bed early so you can go to bed on time.
1. Do something that makes you feel refreshed, this could be a nice relaxing bath, a shower or just a good face cleansing routine if you are more of a morning shower kind of person.
2. Read a book or watch the show you may have missed out on during lunch break (let's face it not everything is going to work out when you plan it)
3. Put your phone away 1 hour (or 30 mins but preferably an hour) before bed, let your mind relax so you can get some good Quality sleep.
REMEMBER: A Leader knows not only how to run the day, but also knows when to ask for help. This may be asking the kids to do chores and things that will help you clear some time for your self-care needs. Ask your husband for some help, he can take over lunch time so that you can really focus on your much needed break. This works visa versa (women do this for your husband if he's the one leading the household, depending on the roles and routine in your home). When you are feeling overwhelmed pull your spouse to the side and ask for help or if you just need to vent tell your spouse (or a friend, or just someone who supports you) "I am not looking for a solution I just really need you to hear me talk about what I am struggling with", this allows the person to hear you instead of thinking of solutions as you are speaking because this will cause them to not really paying attention to what you are saying and what your needs are.
Be Intentional : Take your self-care as serious as you take your job, your job as a; mom, wife, or career woman. Be intentional with your self-care routine, and be intentional with your mindset and how you want to project that onto whoever it is you are leading. Make sure that you are leading effectively and not just enough to get you through the day. If you are not leading peacefully and passionately then you may want to rethink your strategy and lifestyle. If you need help being intentional with your day, with your role, and with yourself then please reach out and we can discuss what that would look like to you and then see how we can put it into action! It's hard being a leader but it doesn't have to be exhausting! Take one day at a time, and have an effective strategy & purpose for each day! Everyone has a Leadership quality in them, it's just up to you to believe it's there and believe in yourself! You are stronger and mightier than you know, and I am not just saying that for good content, I am saying it because I believe in it. I believe in you and I hope you have a day as beautiful as you are!
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