The importance of Self Awareness
Self care is something that gets talked about a lot these days on Social Media. Sometimes it feels like a trend because you never heard about it as much or seen it so in your face like you do now days. The thing is though maybe it's not a trend. Maybe we are just now realizing how important it is to take care of yourself first. Back in the day there wasn't internet or anything like there is now, so you just dealt with things because you had to. Now that there is all this technology and people bringing awareness and education, we get to learn. Before we learn how to Self Care, we have to learn Self Awareness first.
Self Awareness according to the oxford dictionary is "Conscious knowledge of one's own character, feelings, motives and desires". In that sentence alone I have used two of these words all week; feelings and desires. You see you can be aware of some of the words used in that definition, but you need to be aware of the definition as a whole. This is what I am starting to do as a living, teach people how to handle life situations as a whole. If you only try to fix part of a situation or only put part of your heart in to what you are doing, you are only going to get part of the results you want. You have to take care of yourself as a whole; Mind Body and soul.
Taking care of yourself first is imperative.
Literally, end of sentence because that's how important it is. You cannot help anyone around you if you cannot function as a happy healthy human being. Think about it, if you are stressed to the point of a mental breakdown then who is going to handle everything you do on a daily basis? At the moment there's no way to clone you, there's no one else like you, there is only one you. No one is going to step in and take your place. This is even more true if you are a parent and have a family to take care of. When you are a parent and a partner, mass amounts of stress will have you too tired and too stressed to tend to your family's needs. And if you are already stressed, you don't need to feel Guilty on top of that! which I promise, you will feel guilty for not being able to do literally anything for anyone. At that point not only you, but your family will not be able to function on a normal basis. It is not fair to you or anyone around you, if you cannot mentally participate in life. Do yourself and everyone a favor and do some deep digging on your needs and take care of yourself.
The most important thing you can do for yourself is take time to figure out your needs, feelings, desires and even at times re-evaluate your character and motives. Think about it, we change as we get older and we go through different phases throughout life, so why don't you check in with yourself more often? Self evaluate, see where your head space is and what you need. Now there's no good in doing that if you're not going to voice it too. No one now or ever, will be a mind reader. Find your voice and use it, because your voice matters!
Let's talk about Self-Care now.
First of all, you need to understand there is a lot of work to be done and from here on out, you need to make time for you. Why does self-care take so much? Because there's more than one thing to tend to. You have to take care of yourself Mentally, emotionally, socially, physically, spiritually and your space around you as well. It will take time to figure out a way and a routine to be able to tend to your needs, but it will be worth it in the end.
I would love for you to write down each of these areas and then list what you need in each one. Remember there is no wrong or right answer here, this is purely you. Once you can get that written down make some goals, and make it happen. De-cluttering in these areas is a great way to get started as well. Sometimes our minds, and our space gets so cluttered you don't even know where to begin.
Sometimes self-care means doing something you love and nothing else. I personally love lazy days! I love to just be lazy and read a book or watch a favorite show. Sometimes I just need an entire day of laying in bed, drowned in a big blanket watching all time favorite movies. Finding yourself first will be huge for your self-care journey. I forgot that I use to love drawing, especially when I am stressed. I decided that I was going to start drawing again for me! because I love it, it brings me peace and joy. Also, like I said earlier, I had to find my voice and start using it. I told my partner that at least once a month, I need to have a half-day or a full day every now and then for self-care! I have a HUGE family and I want to be able to take care of them as a happy healthy mom and as a happy healthy wife.
If you need help getting back on track or De-cluttering your mind to figure out what self-care looks like for you, please take a look at my site and book a session. I would love to help. This is why I do what I do, so that I can help others get through some of life's rough spots. I want to help those who want to help themselves. Only you know what you need but I can definitely coach you through the process so that you can dig deep in there and pull it out. As always I hope this has been helpful, inspirational and motivational! Have a day as beautiful as you are because you are worth it! Take Care!
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