Work Stress and making the best of your situation
Work stress is not uncommon in today's world. Unfortunately, there are so many different things that factor into the daily downers in the workplace. In fact there are so many different types of situations that I won't even try to attempt listing them all. Besides even if I tried to hit even a few topics, you wouldn't read it all because it'd make for a very long post and it'd be too depressing. However I do have groups on my website that talk about work life and is meant to support each other, give tips and uplift each other. Let's be honest when you work in a negative environment you need a support system!
I will share my story and I am sure there will be someone out there who can relate. It's sad that we live in a world with such high stress rates in the work place that I am That confident someone will be able to relate. There's two main things that factor into work stress and it's either having a "Difficult" Boss (to put it nicely) or "Difficult Co-workers". Even though I have plenty of experience with both I am going to go over having a difficult Boss.
I have worked for some pretty good companies, but even when you work for a good company ultimately it's Who you are working with that makes or breaks the deal. I have worked with a boss who has made it difficult to even get out of bed in the morning. I use to wake up with literally no motivation at all and no hopes for a positive day. Anyone who has read my social media posts and my blog knows this is not who I am. However, my daily routine was going into my job with an email, message, or worst yet -a sticky note with a nasty message, snarky remark or a passive aggressive memo. That's just first thing in the morning, so you can imagine how the rest of the day would go! I dealt with everything from unethical behavior, to bad instructions, to being treated like I don't know what I am doing (even though everyone else around me thought I was doing amazing) and all the way to my boss attacking my appearance and invading personal space! If you can relate to this, I am sorry! I will just put that out there because no one deserves that!
Work accounts for half of our life because if you think about it, most of us work a 9-5 type of job. Some of us even have to work a 12 hour shift or worse. That means we spend almost more time at work than we do with our own family, so why should we have to deal with such a negative environment?! have you ever gotten advice from someone who has told you that you have to learn to live with it, or learn to deal with it, or find a way to let it go? Worst advice ever, no offense to whoever gave you the advice but I mean come on why should we have to settle for living in a negative environment? I get it, some of us have no choice because, well... bills don't pay themselves. So what can we do about this kind of situation? Really, there's only two options we can choose from here. We can quit and work somewhere else, but that doesn't look good, which isn't fair to us who feel stuck in this kind of environment. The second option is taking the proper steps in handling these kind of situations.
what are the proper steps to handling this kind of situation?
You may want to take notes because if you are taking the option of handling a situation like I had, it will not be easy and you may need a reminder when you find yourself in the heat of the moment. Also small disclaimer this is just how I have handled this kind of work stress which may not help everyone so again please let's create that support system in the group where we tell our stories and give tips on how to deal!
One of the most important things to do in a negative work environment is to breathe. Breathe before you react, breathe before you speak and breathe before you try to explain your situation to the person involved. Seems simple, but when you get to a point where you have had enough, you forget to breathe. Then you can proceed to talking to the person causing the stress so you can explain the situation. This is not an easy step and it may mean swallowing a little bit of pride, just enough to be able to talk in a neutral tone. This is an important step as well because you need to be able to show that you are trying to fix the issue. Once you have done this then you can go on to the next step, but you have to really make sure you tried working it out first. The next step is to keep record of Everything! writing down the incidents that have caused you stress and how the person responded when you tried talking through it. The more you keep track of your situation the more credible your complaint will be.
When you are ready to report an issue, speak with a clear and calm voice. No one will ever listen to aggression and too much emotion isn't for a workplace ( okay so I kinda rolled my eyes at this because I mean come on, who wouldn't be emotional with a on going bad situation?! but irregardless there's no place for it in the workplace). Once you are ready to talk to someone, make sure you are not complaining. I know, you ARE complaining but you have to be smart about it so that you don't make yourself look bad. When you bring up an issue do it in a way that looks like you are wanting to help, or like you are wanting to find a solution to a problem. Another way to think of it is, you are wanting to make sure that you are taking the proper steps and course of action to resolve an issue properly. Tell the person you are talking to that you are needing advice, then it really doesn’t seem like complaining. In all honesty that is end goal, handle the situation properly. Remember you are wanting to fix the problem not make it worse or make yourself look bad in the process.
As always I hope my blog post has helped and especially I hope it helps you feel like you are not alone! No one should ever have to go through stress or negativity alone! Things will get better in time. You either try to find a way to make it better by fixing the situation or by creating your own positivity, however that may look for you. Don't stay in a negative situation because it can effect you, your health and those around us. Stay positive and if you are reading this it's for a reason and I wish you all the best!
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